That’s right baby, it’s that groovy feeling when you had all the energy to take over the world. Or at least get the washing done for the day?

I know it’s all been said and done before…..10 ways to better health, 7 steps to eating healthier, 20 tips for beating the flu; and so the list of everyone’s secret to making it goes on. There is most certainly no lack of ‘must do’s’ on the World Wide Web. Overwhelming right?!

Ok so I’m putting it out there from the start, this is another one of those lists – with a twist.

We all know that life is hectic and there’s no time to do the proper exercise that’s prescribed and prepare those super healthy meals only the rich and famous have time for (in the form of a cook and a butler). We also know that we have to get the balance right to keep our sanity. So what’s the answer? In my opinion – JUST DO IT.

I truly believe there are a few basic things you can do to survive the constant chaos and change that has become our lives. So here’s my list of easy steps to get your mojo back –

A little planning can go really far in helping you get it all together

Using just 5 to 10 minutes every evening to think about the next day and what would make your day start out easier can save a lot of time. Instead of running around with kids and their sunshine morning personalities, you’ll be able to focus on the steps to get everything done. You’d be surprised how much time it uses to make a decision, especially when you can’t make one right away. Trying to make a decision under pressure makes it harder to make a good decision. So take the time, even if it’s when you are standing in the shower. Think through what will happen tomorrow morning and you’ll feel more prepared.

Take one step at a time

Mothers are by nature worry pots. We spend so much time pondering everything that needs to be done and how we’ll get to it that half the time you only get 20% done. Who feels me here? I have ten tasks planned for my weekend but end up doing only two. The reason? We try to do it all at once. Take one step back and take a breath. Now, let’s take the first step. Your little bit of planning last night now helps you to know what must be done. So start with one thing. No multi-tasking, do that one thing and finish it. Even if the kids are hanging on you and screaming for your attention. Don’t start another task until that one thing is done. A lot of our feeling that nothing is done is because only half of everything is done. It will give you a feeling of accomplishment if you manage to do one or two things properly and don’t have to worry about them anymore.

Don’t procrastinate, rather write it down

Our brains have interesting ways of coping. One of those ways is using our short term memory to remember, well, everything it can. When you think about something you have to do, your brain stores it in the short term memory on your ‘to do’ list. Unless that task is captured or diarised in a reliable place to receive attention later, your brain will hang on to it. Even if it’s something that’s not that important. Your brain essentially becomes cluttered with all these ‘to do’ items like don’t forget, or remember to do this or that. The easiest way to deal with this is to immediately carry out the task if possible or write it down. It’s important to write it down where you will give it attention otherwise your brain will know it’s not a reliable source and will hang on to the item.

So back to making decisions. The best way to deal with them is to make them immediately and move on. Through pondering and wondering and going back and forth you can lose a lot of time. I know, certain big decisions need time to work through but most of your day to day ones can and should be dealt with on the spot.

Fill your cup

If you don’t look after you, pretty soon there will be nothing left to give. So MAKE IT HAPPEN. Take ten minutes to relax with a cup of tea while hubby (or the tv (no judgements here)) keeps the kids busy. Recharge, be thankful and remember why you love this chaos that is your life.

That’s it folks

These steps will help those of us who like structure and order. For those of you who are right brained, artistic and need lots of freedom of movement – mix up the steps and make sure you know what your dream is that you’re working towards?

Next steps – JUST DO IT!


  1. Julie Maloney on November 2, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    Such a great article Tanya. I’m a big believer of all getting prepared the night before. If you start the day knowing what you need to do it can have a big impact on the whole day.

  2. Lizanne on October 26, 2017 at 8:12 am

    I just found your post, thanks for writing this. I need to plan better… I homeschool my 3 kids and most days its all just chaos because I don’t plan well at all.

    • Tanya Lochner on November 7, 2017 at 2:41 pm

      Well done on homeschooling 3 kids Lizanne, that takes a lot of courage! Planning can really help you feel more in control and achieve the goals you set for you and your family. Have you done the 5 Day Rocking Mama Challenge yet? It will help you with a step by step process for chaos days 😉

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